So, I can distinctly recall the first time I shocked someone with this one: I was at dinner at an awesome Thai restaurant with a friend and a friend of hers, who happened to be a convert liaison at one point in her career. Without missing a beat when she asked me what the most difficult part of converting had been for me I said, “giving up gummy bears.” But it is true….all of those gooey, squishy, gummy delicious sweets are my favourite. And now I can only eat the 3% of them that say “vegetarian” or “halal” because all of the rest have pork gelatin in them. Why, why, why couldn’t everyone just make their sweets with fish gelatin and make my life happy???
So, this is mainly a thing because I just haven’t adjusted to my new wardrobe yet I think. My go to thing used to be a dress, tights if it was winter, cute shoes, and probably a cardigan on top. Add a cute hairdo and earrings and I was good to go. I am still navigating how to make myself still feel as feminine and cute as I always did then (admittedly I have gained a bit of weight as well and that doesn’t help!) while keeping covered. With some recent purchases of pastel toned blouses and scarves though, I think I am well on my way! If you want to read more about my decision to wear hijab you can find that here, by the way.
I know you are thinking, well yeah, of course you miss alcohol! But no, that’s not it at all! Before I converted I had enough booze to last me and my poor liver a lifetime, and I have not looked back since that last drink on my 21st birthday. I do, however, really miss the cosy atmosphere of a good neighbourhood pub. I loved the feeling of just kicking back with friends in a warm pub with good food while it was super cold outside! Luckily for me, I have found it decently easy to replace this one with cafés, if they have the right ambience. Unluckily, this has enabled my tea addiction even further.
This one is more straightforward: I super miss getting tattoos. I have two (you will see a post about that later, I am sure. *wink, wink*), and before I converted I had really big plans for my body-art future. But, alas, they are forbidden. Which means I am sticking to henna for the rest of my life, which is a beautiful substitute if I do say so myself!
Notice, I did not say “boyfriends.” I don’t miss the whole dating scene at all, and marrying my husband has been one of the best things to happen to me (besides embracing Islam, that is!). But I do miss having male friends- all throughout high school and my undergrad studies I was constantly hanging out with the guys because, well, relationships with girls are just too much energy. Someone is always offended, she said this, she said that, drama, and catty-ness. It is just not my thing. Guys were always so much simpler to hang out with. Hang out, play video games, go home, done. But since converting and getting really into understanding the gender relations in Islam, I have given up most of my male friends. I have one or two really good girlfriends, plus my best friend of around 15 years isn’t going anywhere. As for the rest…I am mostly just friends with cats these days…
I hope today’s post has injected a little humour into your day! Be on the look out soon for a follow up post on the 5 things that Islam has given me in my life (because they far outweigh what I have had to give up!)