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Sisterhood Spotlight: Inspiring Muslimahs Doing Great Work

In the past year and a half of so that I have been blogging, I have been absolutely blessed to meet some truly amazing sisters. As I’ve mentioned before, it was in this online space that I truly found “my people” and my community of like-minded Muslimahs.

Today, in that spirit of sisterhood and love for the sake of Allah swt, I want to share with you a couple of sisters that I have had the pleasure of connecting with in the past year, and who are doing some seriously fantastic things.

This is by no means a complete list, and in shaa Allah I hope to continue to share more inspiring sisters work (as well as some guest posts soon!) as I come across them. That being said, if ever you are reading this blog or you just feel like you have something that you would really love to put out into the world, I would love to give you that platform! You can always head over to my contact form to get in touch with me about guest posting or collaborations! Continue reading “Sisterhood Spotlight: Inspiring Muslimahs Doing Great Work”

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Shopping for Modest Clothes: Tips for Newbies

Bismillah al-Rahman al-Raheem

Just recently I was contemplating how I was going to get back in shape once I get back home (jogging outside in Algeria is so not an option), and I started thinking about how I was going to need to do some shopping for modest clothes before I start. It is taking some thought to figure out how I will retain my modesty, when a two piece jilbab just won’t cut it for the activity I’m doing. For horseback riding (one of my favorite things to do!) I will need either looser trousers and a tunic, or perhaps a plain plaid button up shirt and a divided riding skirt. For swimming I will need the ever-conrtoversial burkini, though maybe with some of my own modifications to make the skirt-y bits longer. For running and biking, loose trousers and a tunic, and probably a comfy jersey scarf.

Anyhow, just thinking about shopping for all of this gives me a little bit of stress. It throws me back to my early hijabi days where I was trying as best I could to transition my wardrobe, but every time I went into a store I felt like I was just floundering in the dark. I felt like I had no personal style and I wasn’t modest enough, stuck forever in this weird middle place where I literally just looked like a sack of potatoes every day. You read it right—sack of potatoes.

So that is why, today, I wanted to share with y’all some tips from my nearly three years of experience in shopping for modest clothes. This is for anyone who is just starting out on their modesty journey, perhaps someone completely new to Islam, or someone just new to covering. I hope these can help, and somewhat ease the stress of the new hijabi shopping experience for you.

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Tip #1:

Plan ahead. This can include a lot of things, but what I am really referring to here is to sit down, look at what you already have, and make a plan of what you really need, what colors match what you already have, etc. I would highly recommend that you do this seasonally, at least once for the summer, and once for the winter, but you can go for all four if you want. That way, you are making sure that you are getting things that you really need, and that you will be using immediately.

This reminds me a bit of the idea of a capsule wardrobe. If any of you aren’t familiar with that, a capsul wardrobe is basically having one small set of clothes (i.e. 23 pieces or something) for each season. At the end of the season some get recycled into next season, like a winter cardigan can probably hang on through spring as well, and the rest get stored away as the next capsule comes out.

Now, I’m not saying you can only have a certain number of things in your closet at one time, but the whole point of the capsule wardrobe is to be mindful about what you are buying. It is about buying only what you need for the season you are in, mindfully recycling clothes through seasons, getting as much use out of them as possible before buying new things, and some even take it to being mindful about the quality of the garments you are buying as well as the ethics behind who is making them.

Continue reading “Shopping for Modest Clothes: Tips for Newbies”

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On Matters of “Inequality”

Bismillah al-Rahman al-Raheem

I wanted to share with y’all today something that I really struggled with as a convert to Islam, and something that I think a lot of Muslimahs in general struggle with who haven’t necessarily had the time to really study the religion and wisdom behind the rulings. Today I’m talkin’ about money, and specifically, inheritance.

I think I may have mentioned these issues before, but I thought it may be useful to expand on them.

We all know that Islamically, women get less of a share of inheritance than their male family members. Islamophobes cite this as one of the reasons that Islam is inherently backward and barbaric, (some) men cite it as a reason they are “better” than women, and women are left not understanding why there is such an unfair rule in what they are told is a perfect religion. On the surface, it does seem super old-fashioned and not fair at all; I had a huge problem with it that I have been sweeping under the rug since 2014.

But then I was listening to a lecture, and the wisdom behind the verses on inheritance were mentioned. What was a passing remark for the speaker, was a big “ah-ha!” moment for me. How had I never even thought about it like that before?

Here is what the speaker explained: men get more of the inheritance because they have more of the responsibility. Simple as that.

But let me break it down in case there are some that are still not convinced, because I wasn’t either until I had a good hard think about it (don’t worry, I won’t get into any actual math because that is soooo not my thing). Continue reading “On Matters of “Inequality””

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For the Sisters: Staying Connected When you can’t Pray or Fast

Bismillah al-Rahman al-Raheem

So, we are coming up on Ramadan fast. Like, quite fast. As of posting we only have a month and some days left. For some of us that is pretty exciting, but for some of us (new reverts, first time fasters anyone?) that can be pretty daunting.

I remember my very first Ramadan, being on such a spiritual high, a productive kick at work, I seemed to be seeing everything through pink, sparkly glasses. But then, a week and a half or so in, disaster struck: the dreaded menstrual cycle.

(Men who are reading this can feel free to duck out at this point if this isn’t a topic that you care to know much about…it’s only going to get worse from here!)

Up until this month, I had been pretty lazy where my period was concerned, but this was different. It was Ramadan, and I didn’t want to lose my momentum in such a sacred month. As a new Muslimah, however, I was a bit confused as to what I could and could not do during this week.

I asked around some of my friends, and actually managed to come up with a plan that kept me spiritually connected and productive during the eight days that I couldn’t fast with everyone else, and today, I want to share some of those things that I did. In shaa Allah you can implement these things in your own life not only during the month of Ramadan, but all year round in order to keep yourself spiritually “plugged in” even when you can’t perform ritual prayer or fasting. Continue reading “For the Sisters: Staying Connected When you can’t Pray or Fast”

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Love for the sake of Allah: The Beauty of Sisterhood

Bismillah al-Rahman al-Raheem

Ok, before you even read this post, you have to go read this love letter from a Muslimah, and this post on the sisterhood of Islam (unfortunately the sister has recently taken this site down, go check out her new blog here!).

“Allah will ask on Day of Judgement: “Where are those who loved each other for the sake of My glory? Today, on a day when there is no shade but Mine, I will shade them with My shade.”

Hadith Qudsi narrated in Muslim

This whole “love for the sake of Allah” thing was not something I really understood or experienced, up until very, very recently. Now that I do know how beautiful it is, however, I am a little obsessed with how much I love my fellow Muslimahs and our community, just for the fact that we are supposed to love each other as sisters in religion. Which is why, when I read those two posts above, I couldn’t get them out of my head. Especially that love letter, made me smile all day long!

The whole notion of sisterhood and community was one of the things that actually really attracted me to Islam, once I started studying a little more in-depth. I think it was The Ideal Muslimah that really clued me in to what a beautiful community the Muslims must have, always treating each other so kindly, giving gifts just for the joy of it, lending a helping hand to any sister in need. Upon citing these things to my house-mate, who was not much of a fan of the transition I was going through, as reasons that I was seriously considering Islam, she promptly told me that I should just join a book club or a knitting group, and I could find community that way; I didn’t have to make such a drastic change.  Continue reading “Love for the sake of Allah: The Beauty of Sisterhood”

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To the Sisters on the Fence about Hijab

Bismillah al-Rahman al-Raheem

Today, this post is just for you, my sisters: those new reverts or perhaps a sister who is just starting to think about practising a bit more, and you are considering a huge life-shift, donning the hijab. Or maybe you are still in the skinny-jeans-and-a-tunic-top groove and want to work on upping your modesty game, but are not sure how that will impact your life.

It sounds scary. It was scary. Until I did it, that is. I remember all of the questions I had floating around in my head while contemplating not only converting to Islam, but the whole hijab business that would come with it (I’m an all or nothing kind of person!). But one night, I had slept over at a girlfriend’s house after a lecture at the masjid so we could carpool back to our home town the next day. I discarded my scarf on the floor as I fell, exhausted, into bed, not thinking anything much of it. I thought equally little of it when, the next morning, I woke up and put it straight back on.

From that day, I have worn and striven to practise the hijab to the best of my abilities. As you can probably tell, it just happened for me. The time was right, and I just let all of the questions and the fear go, and did it.

Of course, about a day later all the questions came back and I had to actually start figuring out how I was going to make this big ol’ transition. But I had taken the hardest step.

The same kinds of questions began to surface again as I considered shifting into full jilbab, but again, after I had mentioned the idea to my husband and he said, “OK, well let’s go buy some then,” it just kind of happened on its own.

And though it is sometimes a tough journey, I have never regretted either decision.

So today, I want to share a little bit of my experience, in the hopes that I can answer some of the questions that may be keeping you on the fence and undecided about whether or not you are ready to take the plunge into hijab, or a more modest form of it.  Continue reading “To the Sisters on the Fence about Hijab”

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Guest Post: Is it Really Such a ‘Man’s World’ After All?

Bismillah al-Rahman al-Raheem

Ok, you know how much I love a good chat about women and our status in Islam, so you can imagine how excited I was to find a fellow blogger, convert, and Muslimah sister who likes to talk about the same thing!

Today, I am so excited to have my friend and sister Carla writing a bit about the story of our very first parents, Adam and Eve (as), and how their beautiful story in the Qur’an has set the precedent for women’s rights in Islam.*

Carla is an art graduate, a soon-to-be student of Islamic psychology, and an aspiring naturopathic psychotherapist. She is passionate about wellbeing of the tayyib kind, and you kind find more on her journey and writing over at tayyibwellbeing.com.

So, without further ado:

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The most notable time for women’s rights in recent history has to be – in the UK at least – the Suffragettes. A pioneering group of females who fought, risked, and in some cases lost their lives in a brutally determined movement to fight for the women’s right to vote; a law which was finally passed in England in 1918.  But if the Suffragette leaders were here today, would they feel their work was done? In the progress that modern society has made since the early 20th century, how far have we come in terms of equality and women’s rights?  Continue reading “Guest Post: Is it Really Such a ‘Man’s World’ After All?”